"What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us."– Ralph Waldo Emerson Keystone The largest territory any person will ever inhabit is the one inside themselves. Many people never fully move in. We don't have to be the product of what happened to us, nor what … Continue reading Within
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What is precious
Our mind is a brilliant instrument. It categorizes, analyzes, compares, and concludes. But our mind focuses on what is useful, what is logical, what is safe, what is efficient. The heart finds what is precious. Those are not the same search. They do not use the same tools. They do not even ask the same … Continue reading What is precious
Sunny disposition
If you have good thoughts, they will shine out of your face like sunbeams, and you will always look lovely. – Roald Dahl A sunny disposition reflects the power of positive thinking. When you maintain a cheerful outlook, it often stems from nurturing good thoughts and a hopeful mindset. This positivity influences your interactions, making … Continue reading Sunny disposition
Mothering ourselves
Mothering myself has become a way of listening to my deepest needs, and of responding to them while I respond to my inner child.- Melinda Burns Setting our hearts on being a loving mother to ourselves is an act of profound self-compassion and self-awareness which can allow us to listen deeply to our own needs, … Continue reading Mothering ourselves
Antidotes to anger
"Holding onto anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die." - Unknown Anger held over time creates an illusion of action. It feels like doing something, like maintaining a stance, keeping score, or preserving justice. But the internal cost accrues entirely to the person holding it while the target of that … Continue reading Antidotes to anger
Mightier still
"Knowing others is intelligence. Knowing yourself is true wisdom. Mastering others is strength. Mastering yourself is true power."- Lao Tzu, Chapter 33 of the Tao Te Ching Living a life that requires an enormous amount of sustained inner resources can create the temptations to focus entirely outward, on managing circumstances and other people's needs, while … Continue reading Mightier still
Letting go
"Letting go gives us freedom, and freedom is the only condition for happiness." – Thich Nhat Hanh Keystone Holding responsibility for people whose needs are real is often unpredictable, and sometimes heartbreaking. I have the kind of life that requires continuous engagement. In this kind of life, the temptation is to grip harder and to … Continue reading Letting go
Obstacles as the path
"The obstacle to action advances action. What stands in the way becomes the way." - Marcus Aurelius, Meditations, Book 5, Chapter 20. I find this idea remarkably durable. It has been revisited again and again across two thousand years because the human experience of obstruction has not changed. We still face illness, loss, failed plans, … Continue reading Obstacles as the path
Emotions like wild horses
"Emotions are like wild horses. It’s not about getting rid of them but learning to ride them."– Paulo Coelho The wild horses will always be with us. The question is simply whether we are learning to ride. Emotions are natural forces, not flaws - Wild horses are not broken or wrong simply because they are … Continue reading Emotions like wild horses
Imprisoned splendour
Truth shall set you free. Truth is within ourselves it takes no rise From outward things, whate'er you may believe. There is an inmost centre in us all, Where truth abides in fullness and around, Wall upon wall, the gross flesh hems it in, This perfect clear perception--which is truth. A baffling and perverting carnal … Continue reading Imprisoned splendour